I am always looking for extra time. Extra time to have more fun.
And I always come to the conclusion that I just can't find it 🤔.
So I ended up in the era of time spending and perception.
This may require a little personal introduction ...
The past years have been tough times. They were all about closing a chapter (relationship with father of 2 of my kids) and building a new life. This new chapter was accompanied by a new home, new jobs, new rhythm and a lot of processing and closings.
In short: mind zero and go. Hard and a lot of work, in my job, private and personal development.
Now I have found happiness with my current partner, our child together (my 3rd) and how we are as a composed family. I can only be incredibly grateful for my life today.
The whirlwind has died down, peace has returned. Time to let go, slow down.
Time to start a new chapter: do more things that make me happy. So more time is one focus point, things that make me happy another ... Let's start with the first.
I've made an overview of where I spend my precious "awake" time at. This has (how could it be otherwise ...) led to shocking insights 🙈.
Besides that a quarter goes to my job, I spend more than half on regular, daily things (read: cleaning, cooking dinner, doing laundry, personal care, mail, etc.). Half! Now that is not so bad. But with a short calculation, there is a quarter left for other things ... Other things that I mostly fill with a lot of what (in my head) also has to be done "let’s get it over with".
Back to daily, regular things. What shocked me most is the way I look at this. (... I'll take you into my train of thought ...)
When I have done this, I can continue.
But what do I mean by that? 🧐
Continue with what?
Life?! But then I miss half my life! Half! 😳
And if I fill the remaining time with what I also want to be done?
Then I miss life! 😩
You get it .. shocking... But a revelation! Time for change! 💪
To see, or not to see
I realized I might not have quite the optimal time spending and perception ...
And thought of the following.
Every moment in your life is a moment when you live. If you only consider "free / fun" time as real "live" time, you miss most of life. (That's a nice thing to remember: a lifetime alive time 😊)
The key here is mindfulness + rethinking. Living in the here and now, being into life. Trying to see things from a different perspective. And so I started seeing the regular daily moments from another angle ... 🙃
Thinking of a morning shower as the processing of the night rinsing off me.
Enjoying warmth, to start a beautiful fresh new day.
See cleaning as a real workout! With extra attention to squats and lunges to vacuum under that sofa. And think of those abs with a good mop 😅.
Sports can be ticked off that day.
Seeing toys lying around as educational moments of fun left behind by my child.
He doesn't feel like cleaning up suddenly gives a whole different dimension ...
See all the clumps on the ground (crumbs, sand, dust) as ballast in life that was no longer needed.
And yes, try to leave them where they are for an acceptable amount of time... 🙈
Seeing laundry as a fresh start to envelop you in new life. Feel, smell the clean laundry.
The dirty laundry is not my preference ...
See the making of a healthy meal as the connection with everything it took to ultimately have this food in your hands.
And seeing less healthy food as a treat for my taste senses ... 😋
And so I can go on for a while.
A lifetime alive time
I intend to see it this way more often.
To create more "live time" with mindfulness and rethinking.
An extra smile, extra sensory perceptions.
More moments of fun.
Moments of realizing that I am alive, here and now, that the moment is worth living.